Shy Child, What should to do?

Your  child might find it difficult to get along with other children because he may be shy or timid. You must be careful not to confuse the shy child with the quiet one.

Children differ very much in their personalities and in the characteristics that make it easy or difficult for them to play easily with other children.

Sometimes you may think of the child who is well adjusted to other people in terms of the picture, which is so often shown, of a popular child surrounded by other children, always the gay center of the group. This becomes their aim for your child. It is not necessarily a true picture of  your child who can get along well with others.

There are many quieter and less-outgoing children who get along very well indeed with other children, and who are liked and accepted by them. You are sometimes unnecessarily concerned about your quieter but still well-adjusted normal child.

The quiet child is often an independent youngster who is able to meet situations and make friends in his own way. He is not afraid of people; he likes them and will often have two or three good friends whose interests are the same as his. He is just not so boisterous or conspicuously active as some other boys and girls. He should not be called a really shy child.

Nor should you confuse your young child with the shy child. Your two- or even a three-year-old may not yet be ready to meet situations that involve leaving mother or father or playing with other children. He may still be in the stage in which he just wants to stand and watch the other children play. When he is a bit older, he too will enter in.

The really shy child is the youngster of four or five or older who finds it hard to go out toward other people. He always draws back to the shelter of mother and father and seems disturbed and upset by new situations. Such a child will hang back from entering into play with other children at an age when he would normally be ready and eager to be with others.

Shy Child

If a child is shy his father or parents should try to look behind the shyness for the cause, which again is often found in over anxiety or insecurity. This may have been caused in various ways, some of them, perhaps, unavoidable. If it is due to anxiety then there is a cool thing I can confidently recommend to over come anxiety among children.Check  here by clicking  now.

A child who has been ill during his early years and has not been able to play with other children is often a shy or more timid child. A child who has been moved around, or has had too many changes in the people who have taken care of him, has not had the opportunity to develop a feeling of security.

Perhaps the child’s first play experiences have been with bigger or older children, or with children who were so aggressive and rough in their play that he could not hold his own, became afraid, and did not want to play with them.

Competition with an older brother or sister in which the child has felt unable to keep up will often destroy his confidence and make him shy.

Over training, with too much criticism and disapproval from his parents, can make a youngster shy and timid. So, too, can a feeling on the part of the child that he will be loved and approved by his parents only if he is good, when good means not making a noise, not running or climbing, or not getting dirty.

An overprotected child, whose parents have kept him away from other children, is often a shy child. Or the child who feels inadequate because he cannot climb, throw a ball, or do stunts on the trapeze as well as the others may hold back out of embarrassment instead of joining in with the group. The shy child is almost always one who for some reason or other has come to fear other people or to doubt his ability to meet them.

Such a child cannot be helped to overcome his shyness by punish- ment or shaming. Talking about his shyness will only make it worse. Nor can his parents help him by suddenly forcing or pushing him into group experiences or play with other children. They must be willing to take the time to help him regain and rebuild his self-confidence.

The first step is to check up on their own relationship with the youngster. Are they showing him enough affection so that he is sure that they are devoted to him, like him, and are proud of him?

Parents may be very fond of a child but forget that little children are very literal and need to be shown much affection and proof that they are wanted. Sometimes very busy parents pay much attention to the physical needs of their children but forget to take time to play with a youngster and convince him that they love him.

Next, they should check up to see whether their standards have been too high. Have they expected too much from the child for his age? It is best not to talk to the shy child about being a “good child,” but to find things which he can do well and praise him for doing them, while at the same time overlooking his failures.

The shy child needs many outlets for his feelings. He should be given opportunities and encouragement to play with water and sand, to paint with a big brush and poster paints on large sheets of paper, to play with clay and get his hands into finger paints, to pound on wood with hammer and nails. The shy child needs encouragement to run and play and get dirty.

As a little shy child begins to get over his shyness, it often helps to let him go to a nursery school where he will meet other children each day in sympathetic and well-directed surroundings.

As your child gradually finds himself able to meet new situations, much of his shyness will be relieved if at the same time the over anxiety and the lack of security behind the original shyness are also being lessened. It takes time to help your shy child find his place with other people. Being a good father you need to help me in the process.

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